“In the Moment”

“In the Moment”

Charles Banks

August 5, 2015

Today I sit reminiscing of time gone by. For many years I lived my life working numerous hours without contemplation of time spent with family or a deeper set of spirituality. Tomorrow is a big day for me as I get ready for the upcoming football season, creating rosters in the mind, determining the play book set out by the head coach, and finishing up our pre-season camp in a positive manner. Yet like any other year, August 6th is a day that will resonate in my mind forever. This is my father; Gerald Banks birthday. For years I was busy coaching, too tired from the heat to make the trek south of town to give my dad a hug or a kiss. He understood and was always the first person to state how proud he was of me. I would call him wish him happy birthday and plan our yearly birthday parties during the weekend. My youngest daughter’s birthday happened to fall on August 14th so for a few years we were able to share their special days together. I still have the photograph from the last birthday party when we were able to celebrate together. My dad’s soft demeanor, which showed age in his eyes over his battle with cancer, but his resolve with life, was unmatched in my opinion.

Why am I writing such things these many years since his passing? Too many times we get caught up in the day to day grind that we sit and worry about things that are out of our control, instead of living each day in the moment. It is the moments that we ultimately remember. The good and the bad memories resonate in our minds. Last night I sat with my wife Stephanie and my youngest daughter Katarina around the fire before retiring to bed. During this quiet moment, I was able to recollect back to all the moments, I was too busy to spend time and interact with my family. Don’t get me wrong I am totally interested in all facets of my family and love them dearly. But for the most part, we as a society are so caught up in technology and worrying about what we do not have that we forget the most important aspects in our lives; our family.

My dad was a special breed of soul. He loved, he lectured, he yelled, he showed compassion, he led by example, he was honest, and he was always around interested in how his family was doing at all times. I think I do a great job always being there for my children and family, but the idea of becoming the man that my dad was is an entirely different perspective. He was my dad, my role model, my agent, and my best friend. Spiritually speaking many would call me weird or a spook in regards to my paranormal beliefs. But my dad wouldn’t as I am sure he is smiling in heaven at the idea that I would never give up in this life in my quest for finding answers in the afterlife, or the chance to communicate again even before we meet when I close my eyes for the very last time.

Dad, I have so many wonderful things to tell you. My love for Stephanie grows stronger every day; our marriage is as sound as a mansion on top of a hill. Your granddaughter Chelsey was just sworn into the Army and will leave for boot camp at the end of September. Mom says that you are probably bustling with joy in heaven. Peyton is doing so well adapting to school, he has many friends and is doing very well in band, chorus, and the arts. Your youngest granddaughter Kat will be starting 7th grade this year dad and she is going out for cross-country. I know in my heart that you will be watching the wind blow in her face as she competes towards excellence. I want you to know that after our victory last season at Keokuk in football that I knew you were there and the joy surrounded me and I pointed to the sky feeling overwhelmed with the small victory in my life and knew it in my soul that you were proud. Dad you continue to be my measuring stick towards greatness. Love you always dad; see you later on down the road.

I want to say happy heavenly 77th birthday dad. I love you beyond the moon and the stars in the sky.

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